By Carrie Lee Thachuk
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September 15, 2024
It’s been on my heart to write about this for some time, but each time I try, my emotions take over, and the tears start to fall, blurring the words on the page. These aren’t tears of sorrow; they’re tears of immense joy and love. You see, my son Max just got married! I know there must be other moms out there who can relate to what I’m feeling right now. Twenty-five years ago, this amazing boy entered my life, filling it with a love that I never could have imagined. From the moment he was born, I knew our family was complete. He was so small, so perfect, and from the very beginning, he captured my heart. Over the years, we’ve shared a bond that has only grown stronger. We’ve faced challenges together, celebrated victories, and through it all, our relationship has remained rooted in love and respect. When Max turned 18, he was ready to explore the world, starting with a shared home on a mountain. I worried, as moms do—Was he safe? Was he taking care of himself? But even as he spread his wings, he kept coming back to me, whether it was for a home-cooked meal, (that my husband made of course) to do laundry, or just to share his latest adventure. Those moments reminded me that no matter how far he roamed, I would always be a part of his life. Parenting is an incredible journey, full of unexpected twists and turns. There’s no manual, no step-by-step guide. You do your best, and you hope that the love you pour into your child will guide them through life’s challenges. And then, one day, someone else comes into their life, and you realize that this is another chapter in the story—a beautiful chapter that adds depth and richness to their lives. I’ve found myself on an emotional rollercoaster lately, wondering if my parents felt the same way when Mike and I got married. Is it normal to feel this mix of happiness and confusion? Am I wrong to worry about what comes next? I know I’m not losing a son; I’m gaining a daughter. (and she is lovely) But I can’t help but wonder what it means to be a mother-in-law. Will he still need me? Will our relationship change? As I reflect on these emotions, I realize that they are rooted in love—the love I have for Max and the joy I feel as I see him step into this new phase of his life. It’s okay to feel conflicted, to have moments of doubt. What matters is that I choose to embrace this change with an open heart, welcoming the new experiences that lie ahead. Max, if you’re reading this, I want you to know how proud I am of the man you’ve become. My love for you is unwavering, and you will always have a special place in my heart. As you begin this new journey with your wife, know that I am here for you both. I’m not just your mom—I’m a part of your story, and I will continue to cheer you on, every step of the way. So, here’s to new beginnings, to love, and to the beautiful life you are creating together. May your journey be filled with joy, laughter, and endless love. xo mom